It's a lifelong dance, a give-and-take, and it requires constant communication.But if your partner continually refuses to listen to what you need (time, affection, sex/physical contact, help with children or chores), or refuses to share his own needs, you're not in a good place, says Dr.But if one of you is absolutely sure you want a child and the other categorically refuses, you're in trouble.

No problem in a marriage can be solved without open, honest communication.

Kaye."Some men—and stereotypically this is men—are just not cut out for marriage; they are unable to remain monogamous, even if they seemed to have wanted to get married," says Bowman.

What's worse, they manage to put the blame for their philandering and untrustworthiness on you, usually for being too jealous or controlling.

"If you're no longer spending any time together, if one or both of you is spending all your time at work, with friends, online—and if feels like a relief not to be with each other—it's a sign that you've already disengaged from the marriage."Some marriages encounter damaging, seemingly insurmountable problems—such as infidelity, the loss of a close family member, or a long sexual drought—and rebound from them.

"You can't go anywhere like that." A good rule of thumb: If it's been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits.